Well it's all finally sorted out !!!
I took the transmission and clutch /pressure plates to a local independent BMW shop Juda Motorsports in Mesa , AZ.
Here's what was found : the technician used the same method the Duane Ausherman suggests on his website link can be found on Boxerworks.
While rotating the input shaft, shifting up and down though the gears, well you could up shift to 5 th gear, but only downshift to 4th gear.
Great at least it can be duplicated !!
The shifter lever would not come back, it would stick.
The whole problem was the shift lever shaft seal was put in waaaaay crooked, almost 1/8 th of an inch off, and it was causing the shifter shaft to bind and hang up.
Repositioned the seal, and no shifting problem.
Also the input shaft seal was also put in crooked, and would have caused a leak not too far down the road.
That was straightened out as well.
Now for the pressure plates, the plates are not machined well at all.
There are 3 raised machined areas on the forward plate, using a depth mic, there was .006 in. variation on one and .010 in. on the other.
Also a straight edge put across both plates showed it was machined in a cone shape the outer edges were the highest, and the inner edge was the lowest there was approximately .010 in. difference across the face of the plates.
I'm going to call the clutch shop Monday morning and see what kind of settlement I can get out of them.
So now I get to order new parts, looks like about $ 365 in parts will get me back on the road again.
Well at least I'm not in the dark on what the problem is.
I can say that I don't recommend the clutch and pressure plate rebuild, it may have been one of those Monday or Friday jobs that went wrong, all I know is I won't do it again.
So my advice is stay away from Southland Clutch in National City , CA.
I would also not recommend doing business with Motor Works in National City , CA. as well, they did the overhaul on the transmission.
Just my opinion based on the results that I had, I'm sure there are plenty of satisfied customers of theirs, but I'm not one of them !!!