On the R65 I used light weight wrist pins, balanced each part (piston, rod cap, rod big end) to .1 gram of each other. Twin plugged it. Rebuilt carbs. Sent out the clutch/flywheel assembly and had them high speed balanced and match-marked, and so on. It still buzzed enough to make me crazy.
I was working in a BMW shop at the time. They all buzzed.
Some people just have more tolerance for vibration.
All the '81 and newer big twins buzz more than the old one. The lighter flywheels don't soak up as much vibration as the old boat anchor ones.
I ran the rubber donuts on my R65 for 30+ thousand miles with no grief.
On my R100, I made a set of San Jose style frame side braces. The bike felt as though it had a hinge under the tank in stock condition, and the rubber donuts made it worse. With the donuts (I found a NOS set) and the frame braces, the bike is super smooth and flex-free.