I have the same flat top Bings but I've not yet replaced the diaphragms. I know that BMW didn't supply the diaphragms as spares, only the the whole slide assembly with the diaphragm fitted. But they are definitely replaceable because people here and on other forums have done it by warming the plastic ring with hot water to remove and replace it. As far as I know there was no difference in the diaphragm used by flat tops and dome tops with only the 40mm carbs being different. Is it possible they sent you 40mm diaphragms by mistake.