That is the point Justin - the R65 has what I feel is an undeserved reputation for dropping valves and the explanation often given was 7mm stem. When it seems not to be that common - or at least no worse than other boxers of a similar age/mileage.
As with all other boxers, only when some other malady, like valve seat recession or excessive wear of the valve guides or keepers, is a factor on some high mileage machines does there seem to be a problem. And we all must remember that the mileages we are talking about, most other bike manufacturers of aircoooled engines could only dream about.
It is an explanation put forward in the early days - that could easily be a 'damage limitation brush off' from the manufacturer. Which, at the time, was replacing 19 inch cast front wheels at a significant cost. This is purely conjecture of course.

It 'weak valve theory' also only affected a certain time period of early production - but the whole range from 1979 onwards is often implicated. It also affected R80's and R100s as well.
It could be an RPM thing also - an R100 will be doing less RPM for a given speed than an R65 on the open road - a worn R100 engine might get away with it for longer as it is not being worked as hard.
It could be that most R65's are not used in the same way as R100s anyway which will also fog the issue. Although there is plenty of overlap - i.e there are plenty of long disance tourers/comuters on R65s as well as those R80/100s?
It has to be said I get really peeved when I hear this from someone who has had little or no experience of the model(R65) and is just repeating, inaccurately in most cases, what he/she has heard or read about weak valves - implying that the R65 is a model to avoid and that any R80/100 would be a better choice - when it is obviously not the case.
I have both. I find the chassis of the R65 are far more competent package that that on the larger models - it handles better - or at least my R65 does! Is it the forks? The swb? lower ride height? Or all three? I find the R65 engine more than adequate for my purposes.
Cheers
Steve H