Heat will help things move along. Heat the nut with a propane torch and then spray with oil or try to melt some parafin ion the threads. The heat will help draw the lubricant in and also expand the nut.
I whacked on my wrench with a rubber mallet to get things moving. The left nut still would not thread off by hand, but I made a judgement call and used the wrench to back it off without damaging the port threads. I still replaced it, they're only about $20 from the dealer
Breaking the nut free might take some good persuasion, but as long as it isn't actually fighting you while spinning I don't think you'll damage the threads.
P.S. Not sure how much merit there is to it, but a "study" was done on penetrating oils. It found homemade acetone/atf mix, kano kroil, and liquid wrench penetrating oil to be the best three. When I was taking my steering head apart, PB wasn't working. Switched to liquid wrench and things broke free.