Ken - if there's play in the rocker arm, loosen the lower head stud, pull them together with your fingers and tighten. It's nothing complicated, the shaft just needs zero play but not binding. Guys also use large ChannelLocks and C Clamps, but not much force is required.
As for the torque wrench situation - the deal is that they're most accurate mid range. It doesn't matter how expensive your torque wrench is, the rule of thumb still applies. When we're talking about a few pounds making a difference, that could be the tolerance of your wrench in that area. If your wrench goes to 150 lb, 25 lb is at the extreme low end and quite a ways from the median. Hopefully it's erred on the low end rather than giving you higher torque than asked for.