IF you have a 1985 or later model, I believe that BMW used starter relays with built in diodes in the bikes. Prior to that, I think that the clutch/starter diode is in a housing in the headlight or on the circuit board inside the headlight shell (pre-1980?). I am not certain, but I think that the R65 bikes had the integrated diode in the starter relay before the other bikes. Look closely at your original starter relay to see if it has a diagram on it indicating a diode connection between terminal 86 and 86A..
Starter Relays
12 41 1 350 775 [A] /5 (GN/SW-->15, three RT-->30, BR/SW-->31b, SW-->87, two BL-->D+)
61 31 1 357 104 /6 ('74: SW, BR/GE, three GN/SW, two RT, two BL; later wired like /7?)
61 31 1 243 207 [C] '77 to '84 (30, 85, 86, 87, 87 w/ Clutch/Neutral diode in Headlight Contact Board)
61 36 1 389 105 [D] '85 on & all 'GS, R45, R65 (30, 85, 86, 86a, 87 w/ Clutch/Neutral diode 86-86a)