I finally got to the bottom of my head light problem, and the lighting relay was not bad.
To the best that I can ascertain, the original problem was a wire came loose from the ignition switch ( green/violet).
When I removed the ignition switch to check it, I thought I pulled one wire off while removing it.
There is another connector by my ignition switch ( green/black wires) that is not used for some reason, when I put the switch back in, I put the green/black wires, not the green/violet wires back on.
About three hours later, I was tracing where the green/violet wire from the light relay went to, well I traced it back to the head light switch, and found that I had put the wrong connector back on the switch.
After putting everything back together, it all works like it should !!!!!!!
Looks like the green/black wires are for the buzzer relay that some bikes had installed from the factory .