Hi John,
You are not going to like this much but...
With the Vetter fairing (and side panniers?) on, you have overloaded the bike. You can help things by going down Monte's list but the simple fact is that the front forks are not stiff enough for the added weight of the Vetter on the front end.
I went through all of this on my R65 10 (?) years ago. I tried everything: Telex front fork brace, 100/90H18 rear tire monted on the front, setting the pre-load on the rear swing arm bearings to the maximum torque allowed. Nothing worked. My bike would start to wobble near 65 mph. I was going to send my rear swing arm to SanJose BMW for bracing when I gave up.
So what cured this? You have two choices. Remove the Vetter or bolt a K100 front end on the front of the bike. It has larger diameter front forks and 18" rim that is 2.5 inches wide. The bearing numbers are the same for the R65 and the K100. Try to get a solid mount K100 top tripple tree. The early ones had rubber anti-vibration handlebar mounts that make braking "interesting".
The R65 was designed to be a Nekked bike (yes I know there were few European R65RTs.)
FWIW - With the 1988 K100 front end is rock solid at 90 mph (downhill with a tail wind) and the steering is greatly improved at speeds above 50 mph.
There are two types of K100 front end: standard and "S" sport forks. I didn't plan it this way but I ended up with the Sport forks. The "S" is stamped on the top of the forks on the nut.
Good luck.
PS - My old R65 front end is about to go on a BSA Hornet Cafe bike.